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12 Dec 21

Week of 12 Dec to 18 Dec 2021 (7 meetings for the week)

12 Dec 2021 - 7-8:30PM - Bobbe and Hatrick - Beginners meeting - 69 People

This is a meeting that does all 4 parts of SMART, breaking it down into 3 sections each for a 12 week cycle.

moderatedrinking.com is how a lot of people found SMART

One Goal - motivation
Locus of control - Internal Locus (I'm responsible for actions) to External Locus (Others are to blame or outside situations) AA sits on the External Locus end.

Hierarchy of Values is the starting place. List things like career, family, health, reputation, etc. Seldom does DOC make this list.
Verbise the HOV - turn it into an action
Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic, Time-Bound Goals -- SMART Goals
Relationship - Make time for my child - Specific
complete three tasks every day - Measurable Health - Exercise 3x per week - Achievable
Money - Save $100 / Month - Realistic
Diet - Eat Fruit every day - Time-bound
Are you living your HOV?

• Musterbation (Should, demand)
• Awfulizing (How awful I am)
• Low Frustration Tolerance (with other people and things around us)
• Rating and Blaming (where we are)
• Overgeneralizing (mostly like snarking on AA)

Recognize thoughts as thoughts - the single biggest factor in her own recovery was the willingness to stop running away from the pain"
Catch it Check it, Change it

13 December 2021 - 7:00-8:30AM Hatrick and Kibou - 41 people

A positive thinker does not refuse to think of the negative they just don't dwell on it.

Brooks Palmer - Clutter busting of the brain https://clutterbusting.com and https://insighttimer.com/de/gefuehrte-meditation/dont-take-delivery

HALTBADS again.

Take delivery of love and kindness. We can always say no to meanness and cruelty

Grey rock = The grey rock method involves communicating in an uninteresting way when interacting with abusive or manipulative people. The name “grey rock” refers to how those using this approach become unresponsive, similar to a rock. The technique may involve: ... keeping unavoidable interactions brief.

When communicating with the abusive person, try to:

• Be brief: When communicating with the abusive person, give short answers to questions, such as “yes,” “no,” or “I do not know.”
• Be factual: Use simple, factual statements during conversation and avoid disclosing personal opinions or information unnecessarily. This keeps the conversation impersonal.
• Avoid emotional engagement: This can be difficult, particularly if a person is acting in a threatening or antagonistic way. To remain detached from the conversation, try focusing on breathing, and avoid making eye contact.
• Maintain privacy: Avoid sharing personal information with them, including on social media.

14 December 2021 - 7-8:30PM - Rachel Blue - 135 people

Agenda

• Dealing with recovery imposter syndrome or ambivalence
  • "Comparative suffering is everywhere. It’s not a contest. There’s no need to agonize if you’re worthy of help."
  • "Comparison is the death of joy" — Mark Twain
• Coping with triggers or urges, especially desire to escape stress
  • Find something else to do. Urges can last a few mins to hours. The more that you resist them, the stronger you get
  • Embrace the suck.. Be comfortable with being uncomfortable sometimes.
  • DEADS - Deny/Delay; Escape; Avoid/Accept/Attack; Distract; Substitute http://www.smartrecovery.org/deads/
  • PIG = the problem of instant gratification (Get your Pig a Dog (delay of gratification) as a friend
• Dealing with the concept of abstinence
  • Doing a cost benefit analysis
  • Abstinence vs moderation
• Dealing with the urge to continue using after one use early in the day (throwing away the day)
• Being "sober all the way around" - program requires total sobriety from everything

Sample Cost benefit analysis

15 December 2021 - 10-11:30 - Annie51 and Rob R 62? - 39 people

“At SMART Recovery, rather than being an ‘alcoholic’ or ‘addict’ I am considered a ‘HUMAN BEING’ With ‘one human being’s worth of value’ –a constant.” -- Gordon1, Tool Time

"There is no person walking the face of the earth who has demonstrated such an attempt at courage, dignity, honesty and integrity on a daily basis than a person who formerly was in full-flight addictive behavior and is now seeking a different life and on a path of self-discovery." -Shug Mc Lister?

At SMART, there is no "starting over". There is no "day one again" unless I want to tell myself that. But SMART won't say that to me. If I lapse I don't start from scratch, I start from experience. ;)

Understanding the Stages of Change
Stage #1 Pre-Contemplation - Unaware of problems associated with behavior. Certain that the positives of the behavior out- weigh the negative. Not interested in change. Unwilling to change. No intention to change. Unaware Resistant
Stage #2 Contemplation - Becomes aware of problems associated with behavior. Ambivalent regarding positives and negatives. Explores the potential to change. Desires to change behavior but lacks confidence and commitment. Intends to change before 6 months. Awareness Openness Decision This is an event, not a stage. Concludes that the negatives of the behavior out-weigh the positives and chooses to change behavior. Commitment
Stage #3 Preparation - Accepts responsibility to change behavior. Evaluates and selects techniques for behavior. Develops a plan. Builds confidence and commitment. Intends to change within one month. Anticipation Willingness
Stage #4 Action - Engages in self-directed behavior change effort. Gains new insights and develops new skills. Consciously chooses new behavior. Learns to overcome the tendencies for unwanted behavior. Active in action stage for less than six months. Enthusiasm Momentum.
Stage #5 Maintenance - Masters the ability to sustain new behavior with minimum effort. Establishes desired new behavior patterns and self-control. Remains alert to high- risk situations. Focus is on lapse prevention. Has changed behavior for six months. Perseverance Consolidation Lapse or Relapse This is an event, not a stage. May occur at any time. Personal distress or social pressures are allowed to interrupt the behavior change process. Temporary loss of progress which resumes at an earlier stage. Experience is educational to help prevent further recurrence. Danger Opportunity
Stage #6 Termination - Adopts new self-image consistent with desired behavior and lifestyle. Does not react to temptation in any situation. Expresses confidence and enjoys self-control. Appreciates healthier and happier life.
Most successful self-changers go through the stages three or four times before they make it through the cycle of change without at least one slip. Most will return to the contemplation stage of change. Slips give us the opportunity to learn.

16 Dec 2021 - 11:30AM-1PM - T Bone Don? & Zircon57 -- 118 people

This is billed as an Urge Discussion Meeting - but he talked for the first 35 mins before he opened up to hands.

High Risk Situations

• Unpleasant Emotion
• Physical discomfort
• Pleasant emotions
• Testing my control
• Unexpected urges or temptations
• Conflict with others
• Social pressure
• Pleasant time with others

18 Dec 2021 - 10-11:30AM - Oboe Jeff? - 49 people - General Meeting

One person made the comment about how the brain is wired with the thinking brain / lizard brain and how they interact. Dopamine reactions in the brain. link to a simple video that explains the neuroscience of addiction. https://youtu.be/bwZcPwlRRcc Some places are treating non-opiate addiction with naloxone - blunts the reward mechanism. Has shown efficacy with alcohol, eating, gambling etc.

18 Dec 2021 - 8:30-10PM - Hville79 & Eyesky68 - 110 people

It's a disjointed mess, most of the usual ramblers rambling.