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17 April 22Meetings for the week of 17 April April 17 7-8:30PM - Bobbie intro meeting -- 64 people -- No Hatrick Week 7 this week Starting Point 3 Managing Feelings and Beliefs DIBS / DUBS - Disputing Irrational / Unhelpful Beliefs Do I need to be angry to get what you want? Low frustration tolerance - ask Wes What can you do to slow down a minute See the world as this AND that not this OR that April 18 7:30-9 AM - Bobbe covering for Hartrick - 32 people No Hatrick and no Kibs Went over the fundraiser, team Mojo is 2nd place (Donated $75 to Kibs two weeks ago) Not drinking because I choose what I want to do. Kristen Neff on self compassion: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YFhcNPjIMjc Kristin Neff work shop on Self compassion it might be useful. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ayJ2q3bHc8o. what have I ever profited from rumination? I am going to experience fear...do I really want to continue letting it make my decisions? "pain is inevitable, suffering is optional" “If you’re depressed, you’re living in the past. If you’re anxious, you’re living in the future. If you’re at peace, you’re living in the Now. This very moment is a gift, which is why it’s called the present.” April 22 7-8:30 PM Positive Pal is the facilitator Sort of a discussion meeting - Just Watch Me is here too Maintaining Motivation - Thoughts. Feelings, Mood, Emotions, Behaviors. You’ve abstained for awhile now. You’ve set your foundation, and you have a routine. So, why are you feeling blah? Why is your foundation suddenly feeling shaky? The good news is that you are not alone! It’s normal to get complacent over time. We will explore how to identify warning signs, what to do to change that current trend, and how to keep it from happening again. SMART skills and tools we’ve learned along the way can help us from falling back into our past behaviors. It works >>> when we work it. Be honest… are you doing the work?
Critical Thinking Skill What’s the reason for the lack of motivation? Identify the SPECIFIC problem. Explore options to overcome the issue, and experiment with solutions. Decide which solution is likely to be the most sustainable. Revisit and Analyse your Core Values. Review and Update your Risks/Rewards. Reshape your Change Plan goals to fit the solutions-plan into your routine. Identify the Problem and Be Specific The first step to fixing any problem is to fully understand what it is, and what’s causing it. It’s not enough to simply say, ”I don’t have any motivation.” If we take our vehicle to a garage to be repaired, we don’t expect the mechanic to tell us, “Your car doesn’t work, sorry.” We expect to know exactly what the problem is, what it’s going to cost, and how it can be avoided in the future. So… if we expect to have specific details like that about our vehicle, why don’t we expect to have those same details around our recovery? It’s common to lose motivation… especially when your routine is interrupted by random (and sometimes constant) issues that can be challenging to resolve. You might notice yourself making excuses as to why you can’t continue with your previous commitments to your VAC Is?, your meetings, your exercises, your journaling, your meditation, etc. 'Once you fall into the excuse habit, you’ll find reasons to justify your lapses and relapses.' Solution: Ask for help. Get an accountability partner to help you restore your time management around your routine. Dr Gabor Maté - 23 April 2022 2-3:30PM -- Rob R 62? and Donnanato -- Discussion Meeting -- 118 people Dealing with Negative Self Talk is something I need to work on. Day One is Day Won We don't lose the experiences we had when we were successfully avoiding addictive behavior in the past, even if we had a slip. A return to behavior is not a time warp that causes all my past abstinent time to vanish. In recovery it is often brought up that I can’t change the past in terms of the ‘bad’ things that I have done that might have caused harm to another, but just the same I can’t change the past in terms of the HELPFUL and healthy things that I have done and learned. That doesn’t go away. I get to own that and celebrate it. ‘If a return to behavior occurs, I don't start from scratch....I start from experience’. I have just pulled off the road for a time and still knowing how to drive, I can pull back onto the road and continue the journey. Unconditional Self-Acceptance Unconditional Acceptance https://www.smartrecovery.org/unconditional-self-acceptance/ Attention deficit disorder with chronic dissatisfaction Some of the kindest souls I know have lived in a world that was not so kind to them. Some of the best human beings I know, have been through so much at the hands of other, and they still love deeply, they still care. Sometimes it's the people who have been hurt the most that are the best. |