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19 Dec 21Meeting notes for the week starting 19 December 2021 19 December 2021 - 7-8:30 PM - Bobbe - 65 people Major Musts 1) I must be perfect, you must love me 2) You must be perfect, or you are damnable being and must be punished 3) Life must be good and easy, or it sucks. What exactly is self-esteme What is self acceptance What about depressions, anger, fear, anxiety Fear is thinking "Don't begin it" “I must not fear. Fear is the mind-killer. Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration. I will face my fear. I will permit it to pass over me and through me. And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path. Where the fear has gone there will be nothing. Only I will remain.” ― Frank Herbert, Dune What do I want for my future What am I currently doing to get there 20 December 2021 - 7:30-9AM - Hatrick and Kibou - 40 people Position on Spirituality - We believe that the power to change addictive behaviours resides within each individual and does not depend upon adherence to any spiritual viewpoint. The use of religious or spiritual beliefs and practices in recovery is a personal choice and not a part of the SMART program as such. Holiday Protection Plan Christmas Group Therapy - I don't believe in myself (Santa) I think I'm by Polar (Snowman) All the reindeer call me names (Rudolph) I'm in a dead end job (elf) Not succumb to the dislocations imposed by the Covid new normal; Not sucumb to the added stress of family get-togethers. Plan ahead - Remember No is a complete sentence. And have an exit strategy. Plan out who you need to tell you are leaving. Take away is BE PROACTIVE - make sure you have a planned activity for the rest of the night. Support: Wingman, Chaperone, pre arrange with host "don't serve me" VR world, schedule a zoom call. Have a plan B if things go wrong. Make sure you have things to support your VACI (food, books, colored pens, etc.) Make sure you Eat Right (Healthy & On schedule) and get sleep. Here is a SMART story about slips from Hourglass52: “If I were driving from NY to LA and I got a flat in Denver, Would I have to go back to NY, get it fixed and start over from there? Here at SMART I can see the tire is flat; use tools to fix it, And continue on my journey from where I am. A lapse is a flat tire in recovery – inconvenient rather than a disaster.”" 21 December 2021 - 8:30-10AM - Amelia27 & Time Is Over Sir? - 58 people Try Habit Stacking - get a good habit and then link / stack other good habits to that. The artist way - write 750 words in the morning (3 pages of text) to be able to reframe the day before it starts. A link to what cyberjunkie is talking about https://750words.com/ Escapism-look for an adventure/go out doors/ be curios/ take positive risks/VACI's/ Self medication-meditate Feel more confident socially-challenge oneself to be social-take risks to be vulnerable/go to a coffee shop/ just get out/knitting groups etc./connection/challenge oneself Euphoria-reframe as boring Tastes good Lessens pain mentally /physically-take medicatons regularly Lessens feelings of incompetence Gets negative past demons chatter out of ones head/intrusive thoughts/memories Prevent or deal with the F'its list:
21 December 2021 - 6-7:30PM - Rachel Blue? - 144 people
Topics
Avoiding triggers at holiday gatherings
Dealing with a loss of a friend to an OD over the holidays
Dealing with trigger when you're surrounded by people who are using
Shifting social life from drinking/partying to a life that's not about that. Managing relationships Dealing with telling others that you are in recovery
22 December 2021 12-1PM - fmb1 - 48 people General Meetings just check-ins 23 December 2021 No Meeting 24 December 2021 - 11:12PM - MT Massy? 120 people Discussion meeting - just check ins (still not a fan of this meeting) 25 December 2021 No meeting on Christmas Day |