SMART Sessions for Week of 6 Feb 2022
6 Feb 2022 7-8:30PM - Beginners meeting - Hatrick (Bobbe is out this week) - 66 People
Manage Thoughts, Feelings and Behaviors
- Excuses and Boundaries - for ourselves and others.
- A period of abstinence may lead you to think that you have regained control. This gives you an excuse to abuse
- Abstinence violation effect.
- Danger situations page 56 in the handbook
Association, Boredom, Emotions, Fantasy, Frustration, Opportunity
Get professional help if you need it. Live with awareness. Control stimuli.
- Stay engaged with your support
Setting Personal Boundaries
- Us it hard to say Yes or No?
- Are you OK when others say No to you?
- Do you take on others problems / pain?
- Do you experience other peoples problems or pain?
It pays to have an awareness of your own Attitudes around Boundries
- Set boundaries
- Respect others boundaries
- Use boundaries for Good, not isolation
Setting Boundaries
- Define - Identify desired boundary - Values
- Communicate - say what you need - clear and Neutral
- Stay Simple - Don't overexplain - Concise
- Set consequences - Say why it's important and what will happen - Enforce
Personal Bill of Rights
- I have the right to ask for what I want
- I have the right to say no to requests or demands I can't meet
- I have the right to express all of my feelings, positive or negative
- I have the right to change my mind
- I have the right to make mistakes and not have to be perfect.
- I have the right to follow my own values and standards
- I have the right to say no to anything when I feel I am not ready, it is unsafe, or violates my values
- I have the right to determine my own priorities
- I have the right to be responsible for others' behaviors, actions feelings or problems
- I have the right to expect honesty from others.
- I have the right to be angry at someone I love.
- I have the right to be uniquely myself
- I have the right to feel scared and say "I'm afraid"
- I have the right to say "I don't know"
- I have the right not to give excuses or reasons for my behavior
- I have the right to make decisions based on my feelings.
- I have the right to my own needs for personal space and time.
- I have the right to be playful and frivolous.
- I have the right to be healthier than those around me.
- I have the right to be in a non-abusive environment.
- I have the right to make friends and be comfortable around people.
- I have the right to change and grow.
- I have the right to have my needs and wants respected by others.
- I have the right to be treated with dignity and respect.
- I have the right to be happy.
- I have a right to think about ME without feeling selfish
Be Self-IST
The basis in all healing is a positive belief.
7 Feb 2022 - 7:30-9AM - Discussion with Hatrick and Kibou - 35 people
Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.
This weeks topic is "Choices"
- Viktor Frankl
- When we are no longer able to change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.
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- "Those who have a why to live, can bear with almost any how."
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- "Our greatest freedom to choose our attitude."
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- "Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom."
There is a space before stimulus - the HOV and Change Plans helps us manage the stimulus when it comes.
Urges are result of the stimulus - we need to have plans on what to do as a response.
Better responses is where the growth and freedom is.
- "The Wolf I Feed"
- Once upon a time, there was a Cherokee grandfather (or Navajo grandfather), who told his grandson, “Grandson, there are two wolves inside of me. One wolf is white, good and altruistic, generous and kind, and the other wolf is black, mean and greedy, violent and angry. The two wolves are in a constant fight within me.” The grandson, with wide eyes, says, “But which one will win, grandpa?” And the grandfather says (there is usually a deliberate pause here for effect before delivering the spiritual punchline – wait for it), “The one which I feed.”
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- Podcast - https://www.oneyoufeed.net/
100 Positive Affirmations for Daily use
“We never lose our demons. We only learn to rise above them.” ~The Ancient One (“Doctor Strange”)
Dreams are just your brain is just working things out without you :)
Peacebeam - Begin Bright Series
