Selling shit on reverb dot com
A few days ago I sold a guitar pedal on reverb, shipped it off, waved goodbye and forgot all about it. A few days later the buyer told me he’d like a refund, saying the pedal didn’t work as expected. Getting the refund request email kicked off a lot of anxious thoughts and feelings that really interupted my chill evening routine. I really didn’t have the mental energy to argue with a stranger on the internet about whether or not the pedal works, so I told him “sorry” and issued the refund.
One of the anxious thoughts was that the buyer, reverb, this pedal were all sources of pure negative affect so they must go. Get rid of the buyer ASAP, stop selling on reverb forever and trash the pedal if/when it makes its way back to me. I was also thinking about getting rid of all of my pedals, maybe even all of my music gear. These things were all now potential sources of anxiety under the right circumstances.
The next day things seemed less dire, less existential. The buyer was out of the picture, I can choose whether or not to sell my shit on reverb dot com and the pedal itself is sitting at my local PO and presumably will be delivered tomorrow. And I didn’t feel like trashing my hobby because of one uncomfortable interaction. So all in all this felt like a learning experience and not an ongoing source of anxiety.
tags: month-of-blogs, anxiety
Mindfully yours
Today at work I went to a presentation on mental health and mindfulness. It was meant to be a feel-good-type thing, and I certainly felt good afterward. From the comments in the Zoom chat I think a lot of other attendees felt good as well.
The discussion of mental health was very short and only mentioned generalized anxiety and social anxiety, leaving out literally everything else. Despite the flyer saying the talk covered metnal health and “root causes” of mental health issues, the talk was basically a lecture on mindfulness. I really wasn’t expecting too much from a one hour work thing, so not a big surprise. The only “root cause” of anxiety they mentioned was an individual’s use of social media. There’s obviously a lot more to it than that, and I was a little disappointed they didn’t mention anything else.
Anyway, it felt like the presenter was honestly trying to help people feel better. The world we live in is a giant, anxiety-inducing mess. All the mindfulness coach can really do is show us how to feel at ease for a little while despite that.
tags: month-of-blogs, anxiety, jobby-job
Ten years with a musical gear hobby
Ten years ago I started buying musical gear as a hobby. At the time my intention was to “get back into making music”, something I hadn’t done regularly since college. (And back then “making music” was mostly learning random songs I liked, never writing my own songs.) So my first gear purchase was a digital 4-track recorder. I already had a decent acoustic guitar, so why not give singer-songwritering a go? I only recorded one or two songs, and those were semi-comedic songs about the neighbor’s lawnmower or whatever.
The intervening years are kind of a blur of gear buying and selling. I have a spreadsheet with my current inventory and it’s embarrassing how long it is. It feels like making music became ancillary to buying gear. I haven’t actually written a whole song (verse chorus verse, etc.) since I was in a band in high school, and I haven’t learned a new song in ages. Maybe making music was not what I was actually interested in. Perhaps making music was a cover, and what I was really doing was trying to avoid dealing with my social anxiety? Maybe I thought making music would open a door to workable social relationships that I didn’t have / couldn’t manage. But my ideal of creating honest, impeccable music set me up to fail at making music. Buying gear was part of the avoidance process, as I never settled on a set up long enough to get good at actual music creation. I felt bad, but feeling bad was the cost of not having to change.
tags: month-of-blogs, anxiety, music