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28 Nov 21Meetings for the week of 28 November 2021 - 11 meetings 28 Nov 2021 10:00-11:30 AM - Rebornme / Zircon57 - 98 people Not AA but Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy - science based not faith based Good Thanksgiving weekend for lots of people Look at the DIBS tool Dispute Irrational Beliefs Car confiscated by family share kicked off a great discussion. "Everyone has issues. You have issues. I have issues. Everyone in my family and in your family has major issues. Serious issues. The family household that you will establish will have major issues. You will never find a mate without serious issues—as long as your mate will be an actual human. Anyone who opens to you their life and their home will necessarily be opening up their serious issues for your observation. I have not yet found any people who lack serious issues. It is an honor and a sacred gift to be allowed close enough to other people and their home life to catch sight of the issues that they nearly always manage to keep out of sight from the rest of the world. Nothing about anyone should surprise you. Nothing about anyone. Ever. That is very important to get used to as a scholar of psychology, a student of humankind. Fasten your seatbelt. Humanity has barely begun to blow your mind" - Anon Mentor “Being honest may not get you many friends but it’ll always get you the right ones” - John Lennon “You share with people who've earned the right to hear your story. ...You have to earn the right to hear my story. It's an honor to hold space for me when I'm in shame.” ― Brené Brown
DEADS Tool https://drive.google.com/file/d/1e2bLBMmPHYLl4OrvlaTmVl_i31E9iipX/view?usp=sharing https://www.smartrecovery.org/skills-to-deal-with-anxiety-distress-and-cravings/ This was one of the best meetings. 28 Nov 2021 - 7:00-8:30 - Bobbe - 79 = This is the beginners meeting with a 12 week cycle, next cycle starts 12 December “If we share our shame story with the wrong person, they can easily become one more piece of flying debris in an already dangerous storm.” ― Brene Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection YCMATA - (You Can't Memorize All The Acronyms) Week 11 The Four Points of SMART - Achieve Lifestyle Balance Vitally Absorbing Creative Interest = Do something that interest you (me), make your brain work on new patterns. Pick something that you loose time while you are doing it. Setting SMART goals = Specific, Measurable, Agreeable, Realistic, Time-Bound Create todo lists, but don't get overwhelmed Effective action plans
Structure of the plan
Mind Full or Mindful = Catch it, check it, change it HALT the BADS (need to pay attention)
Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired the Bored, Anxious, Depressed, Stressed SOBER, Stop. Observe your feelings, Take a Breath and another, Expand your awareness, R "respond" mindfully We do not get too old to play, we get old because we stop playing. ( Adding to regular meeting list) 29 November 2021 7:30-9:00 AM - Hatrick / Kibou - 42 people Topic is Inspiration Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, 'Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?' Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others. Marianne Willamson I am worthy, loveable, and kind - Arne Around boundaries “Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously” - Prentis Hemphill It will be OK at the end, if it's not OK, it's not the end yet - Soozee Q? Discussion around journaling https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-athletes-way/202107/why-does-writing-hand-promote-better-and-faster-learning Pledge - Mary Beth Hyland (Spark insitute) ( Adding to regular meeting list ) 29 November 2021 9:30-11 AM Anne51 - 62 people This is a discussion only meeting, but she pulls up slides to show. If I'm having an urge, it means I'm not using my DOC It's simple - It's easier to avoid stepping into something than it is to clean your shoe off after you step in it. 30 November 2021 7:00-8:30AM Jasper2016 - 66 people 12 steps for self care
This was a terrible meeting will not attend again 30 November 2021 10:30-12PM - Rob R 62? - 82 People This is Gaslighting, Kati Morton - https://youtu.be/3O3ZQPezglQ Trama memories can split up and not be part of the memory stream. So people will think they will have faulty memories
How to heal: Get away from them. Seek professional support. Get friend support. Change the way you talk to yourself - be more positive I understand what she is saying , but at the same time.... you could potentially use this method as an excuse when someone is genuinely trying to help you and you're in denial and unwilling to admit you need help or have a problem.... Things to remember when you're overwhelmed
30 November 2021 6:00-7:30PM Rachel Blue 143 People ( I love how she takes lots of ideas and creates an agenda and brings it as a smooth presentation ) (This is my favorite meetings) Topics
( I needed to leave at 7) 1 Dec 2021 10-11AM - Annie51 - 55 people This is an intro meeting SMART 4 points. Build and maintain motivation, Coping with urges, Managing thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, Living a balanced life Went over the differences between AA and SMART No higher power, no helplessness, no sponsor, no names "I am not my symptoms" REBT - Albert Ellis (Albert Ellis?.org) https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/138nCJ4afNrs85Affde6xYs9r38qy3Yv4 Need to work on my Unconditional Acceptance (Self, Others, Life) Continue to work on the ABC(DE) lists. Activate, Belief, Consequences, Dispute Irrational, Effect change, Future. You do them, C,A,B,D,E,F; Writing the plan out helps to solidify it. All of today's slides, links, etc. https://www.dropbox.com/s/hgmyqg2nygx984m/2021201Annie51-Point%203%20Thoughts%20Feeling%20Behaviors.pdf?dl=0 2 December 2021 - Wes day 2 December 2021 - 7:30-9 PM Mattahundt and Jmac1964 - 67 people This is a sharing meeting. Mattahundt does a good job in taking shares and talking about tools to use. He collects topics, group votes on them and he does them in interest order. This week the list was: 3 December 2021 - 7:00 - 8:30 Positive Pal? - 48 People - General meeting DISARM the Addiction Salesman – SMART Recovery
https://www.smartrecovery.org/smart-recovery-toolbox/disarm What is Post-Acute Withdrawal Syndrome (PAWS)?
https://www.hazeldenbettyford.org/articles/post-acute-withdrawal-syndrome
Urges
4 December 2021 - 2:00-3:30PM - Rob R 62? and Donn Sped Music? - 92 people Video "Rewriting the Story of My Addiction (2/2/2015) - Jo Harvey Weatherford Stories with positive or negative spins Things to remember when you're overwhelmed
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